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The Truth about Strength changing behaviors emotional supression May 09, 2025

The interesting thing about my life is that I spent the first 50 years selling strength as my best feature.  You name it , I could do it.  I spent large portions of my time here on earth proving tha...

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The Fences We Build: Childhood Trauma and the Battle for Boundaries boundaries trauma May 02, 2025

                                 “Fences should protect, not isolate.” – Bono


There’s a stretch of road outside town where the fences tell stories. Some are sturdy and tall, proud guardians of the la...

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We Can Rest When We are Dead: Dead Being the Key Word changing behaviors generation x growing forward rest Apr 25, 2025

“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.”

— Mark Black

 Steam rising over the lip of my coffee mug I could hear my husband ask me what I wanted to do this weekend.  "Just relax", w...

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The Myth of Hyper Independence connection hyper independence reading the room Apr 18, 2025

She was running late to the social gathering.  Being on time was her specialty but tonight she had slowed herself, not wanting to attend the meet and greet event.  She had never understood why they ne...

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Seen and Not Heard: The Silent Pain of Emotional Neglect connection emotional neglect generation x growing forward worthy Apr 11, 2025

She sat quietly at the kitchen table, her small fingers tracing the wood grain, eyes fixed on the patterns as if they held the answers she sought. Moments earlier, her innocent curiosity had been met ...

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The Enduring Scars of a Survivalist Generation changing behaviors generation x growing forward understanding resilience Apr 04, 2025

A few more steps and I would be home.  With blurred vision and blood gushing from my face,  my friend had left me to walk home from the hill moments after we rolled to the bottom.  She would limp her ...

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Bridges, Not Ruins: Healing Relationships After Trauma boundaries connection growing forward healing trauma Mar 28, 2025

"The wound is the place where the light enters you." – Rumi

There was a time when I believed that some relationships were beyond repair. Trauma had left its fingerprints on everything—how I s

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The Bricklayer’s Dilemma: Walls vs. Boundaries in Healing boundaries changing behaviors courage Mar 21, 2025

There’s an old saying: "Good fences make good neighbors." But I think whoever said that never had to rebuild themselves from the rubble of trauma. Because when you’ve been hurt, a fence doesn’t feel l...

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Self-Care: The Foundation of Healing and Renewal changing behaviors healing trauma resilience self care Mar 14, 2025

While lounging in a hot bath the other night a thought danced through my mind.  I started to wonder about how many people take hot baths and why we are so inclined to escape to one after a par

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Lessons Learned From My Canine Teachers changing behaviors courage emotional regulation growing forward healing trauma Mar 07, 2025

The chaos erupted in an instant—one moment, there was tense stillness, and the next, a blur of teeth, snarls, and frenzied movement shattered the fragile peace we had known. The air was thick with the...

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Cultivating Healthy Connections as an Empath empath healing trauma healthy bonds trauma bonds Feb 28, 2025

My name is Anastasia and I am an Empath.  When in close proximity to people I absorb their energy and carry it.  When they are in a good place the energy is life giving, however, when the person we ar...

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Uncovering the Great Unknown changing behaviors courage creativity for healing healing trauma Feb 21, 2025

"Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen."   

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