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When Memory Visits complex trauma memory neuroplasticity reclaiming your story Jun 13, 2025

Recently, while working our on my treadmill I had a powerful memory come up for me that caused a visceral reaction.  It actually made me heave a few times and was enough to stop me in my tracks enou...

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The Space Between achieving the impossble breaking barriers mindset shift overcoming limits Jun 06, 2025

"There is fiction in the space betweenYou and realityYou will do and say anythingTo make your everyday life seem less mundaneThere is fiction in the space betweenYou and me"  ~ Tracy Chapman

 

The...

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Catch and Release generational trauma healing trauma May 30, 2025

The lake was calm that morning, the kind of stillness that makes you whisper even though there’s no one around to hear you.  I sat on the beach not far from my mother reading the latest Judy Blume n...

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Into the Shadows that Shaped Us growing forward May 23, 2025

Lately my mornings have been filled with sorting.  I take 1 hour in the quiet morning light and I sift and sort through years of pictures that have come to rest in boxes.  Every picture to be scanne...

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Piecing Together Our Past connection hearing triggers May 16, 2025

This morning, as the wind howls moving the icebergs on the lake I sit mesmerized by the details of the quilt top in front of me.  It is made up of all the funky fabrics from my childhood clothes.  T...

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The Truth about Strength changing behaviors emotional supression May 09, 2025

The interesting thing about my life is that I spent the first 50 years selling strength as my best feature.  You name it , I could do it.  I spent large portions of my time here on earth proving tha...

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The Fences We Build: Childhood Trauma and the Battle for Boundaries boundaries trauma May 02, 2025

                                 “Fences should protect, not isolate.” – Bono


There’s a stretch of road outside town where the fences tell stories. Some are sturdy and tall, proud guardians of the la...

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We Can Rest When We are Dead: Dead Being the Key Word changing behaviors generation x growing forward rest Apr 25, 2025

“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.”

— Mark Black

 Steam rising over the lip of my coffee mug I could hear my husband ask me what I wanted to do this weekend.  "Just relax", w...

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The Myth of Hyper Independence connection hyper independence reading the room Apr 18, 2025

She was running late to the social gathering.  Being on time was her specialty but tonight she had slowed herself, not wanting to attend the meet and greet event.  She had never understood why they ne...

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Seen and Not Heard: The Silent Pain of Emotional Neglect connection emotional neglect generation x growing forward worthy Apr 11, 2025

She sat quietly at the kitchen table, her small fingers tracing the wood grain, eyes fixed on the patterns as if they held the answers she sought. Moments earlier, her innocent curiosity had been met ...

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The Enduring Scars of a Survivalist Generation changing behaviors generation x growing forward understanding resilience Apr 04, 2025

A few more steps and I would be home.  With blurred vision and blood gushing from my face,  my friend had left me to walk home from the hill moments after we rolled to the bottom.  She would limp her ...

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Bridges, Not Ruins: Healing Relationships After Trauma boundaries connection growing forward healing trauma Mar 28, 2025

"The wound is the place where the light enters you." – Rumi

There was a time when I believed that some relationships were beyond repair. Trauma had left its fingerprints on everything—how I s

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